Due to the aging of brain cells and various physical functions, the elderly may appear unfavorable to the younger generation regardless of their will.However, if the elderly understand and recognize the various problems caused by aging themselves, negative communication can be significantly alleviated.It is also wisdom to live in harmony in relationships with family, church, and neighbors.Of course, if the younger generation also understands and accepts the fact that the unfavorable appearance or behavior of the elderly is due to aging, they can live without burdening each other significantly.In particular, the elderly should know that effective communication is not an option but a necessary condition and strive for it.
Facial expression management is necessary. As you age, you become expressionless, and increasing wrinkles on your face can give an unfavorable impression to the younger generation. However, even a wrinkled face can be seen in a good light if it has a smile. When meeting people of other generations, avoid rigid expressions or postures. Stereotypes should reduce nagging and complaints in communication with others. As one of the aging phenomena, the elderly tend to be dissatisfied and disapprove of the current state of society, the behavior of young people, government or social policies, and the behavior of their children at home, leading to a lot of nagging. However, nagging or complaints are unlikely to expect a good response from the younger generation. Rather, it causes antipathy and widens the distance. Therefore, try not to have complaints as much as possible and accept things positively as they are. Nagging interferes with, confuses, and sometimes distorts intentional messages in the communication process. It has a negative impact on the receiver's emotions and attitudes. Eliminating this is essential for effective communication.
Goodwill feedback is important. Many problems in communication arise from misunderstandings, inaccuracies, and negative feedback. Feedback is the receiver's reaction to the other person's message. Since human communication is intentional rather than spontaneous, the process of checking whether it was delivered as intended by the sender is feedback. The other person often wants feedback on their message. However, sometimes the elderly launch negative feedback due to minor misunderstandings or inaccurate reception. They get angry or show negative reactions to trivial things. In particular, the most detrimental behavior in communication is getting angry. Although patience decreases and impatience increases due to aging, try to be patient and not get angry as much as possible. Although there are individual differences, it is reported that for most people, negative lingering effects last for more than 10 hours after getting angry. In fact, nothing changes by getting angry. It only worsens the relationship with the other person.
If you cannot control your anger in old age, your sociality index will become very low. Be careful of loud voices. Due to hearing impairment, the elderly naturally tend to speak louder and become blunt. Young people try not to include them in conversations because of the elderly's tone of voice. When speaking, try to speak softly, kindly, and quickly with a slightly high pitch to give the impression of being a comfortable conversation partner rather than an elderly person. Compared to the past, modern people do not know how to wait long and react urgently. In particular, the younger generation wants to communicate very quickly. They express their intentions with abbreviations rather than listing long words, and with short media clips rather than long documentaries. If they think the elderly's reaction is not the same as their thoughts, they mercilessly ignore it or stop at formal conversation.
Say thank you often. According to research, the elderly are stingier with expressions of gratitude than other generations. You should have a habit of always expressing gratitude and praising those who help or serve the elderly at restaurants, government offices, banks, etc. Then you will gain a lot.
Wear bright and clean colored clothes. The elderly tend to choose gloomy colored clothes such as black or gray. This is because they feel anxiety and awkwardness with fancy or bright colors due to aging phenomena. Such clothing choices make the appearance of the elderly look more negative. If possible, choosing bright and clean colors when entering old age makes the impression of the elderly brighter. The purpose of communication lies in mutual understanding. Mutual understanding is when one person's judgment of the meaning of the message they are trying to convey matches the judgment of the other person's message. This does not mean agreement with the message; mutual understanding is possible, but one may or may not agree. In particular, effective communication is best if 10% of my intention can be conveyed, but rather it is to minimize misunderstanding. Most people perceive or accept the same situation or information differently. These different perceptions can be the beginning of misunderstandings and conflicts in intergenerational dialogue. Even if you are an elderly person, if you want to communicate more effectively and efficiently to accurately convey your intentions and live a satisfying life, you must accurately identify and deal with obstacles arising from cultural differences.